It is not unusual for a woman to wonder how to stop arguing with your boyfriend? Because it tends to happen a lot, I am a man and I have found that females argue a lot, and it can be over useless things, now as a responsible man, who loves women, their company and feel like my ego gets a boost as my girlfriend is happy, I had to look this up and on top of that I spent a good time thinking about the topic and here is my take on the event as well as the solution to the problem. Are you ready?
Women have instincts, instincts that have to do with their choice in men, instincts that has to do with their surroundings and environment, let me put it like this. A man has instincts and his instincts is to find a beautiful woman, with a body fit for child productions, a personality fit for raising children and that is what he seeks. Now if you were to imagine a woman that fits the description where did you see that type of girl? On a cover some were? Right, because the man’s objective is to plant his seeds in the fittest female that can take care of it afterwards. If you ever wondered why men are so shallow when it comes to women, now you know. Now, a woman have here instinct to because when a woman is with a man, it is not the same instincts because a woman’s roll and objective is different, se might get pregnant and as she do, she is a fulltime mother for 18 years (atlest) and she does (no matter If the feminists agree or not) need someone to lean against and get support from and therefore she have quite high demands on her partner. He needs to poses certain characteristics and attributes in order for her to feel safe and content and if he doesn’t she will begin to argue about es faults. It really doesn’t matter if you want children or not, if you even thought about this matters or not because it simply is instinctive. Now if you were to begin to consider what I have said for a moment, can you see how this might ring truth? Would you agree with me on this? Because a lot of women start arguing over things that they themselves feel ridicules over but they can’t help it and this has to do with it. now here is some advice for you who wonders how to stop arguing with my boyfriend. Sit down, grab a pad and a pen if you like to, and begin to ask your self – what is it that you really like or wish your boyfriend had (and I mean attributes rather than physical things) honesty, self-assurance or whatever. I would suggest that you go for 4-5 different attributes. Once you have them on paper, ask yourself if your boyfriend have what you ask for in any way what so ever. It could be just a tad of it but that he might express it in minor situations when you actually what to see more of it. Now, does he have any of it? if he does, begin to encourage him (smoothly) to do more of it, tell him that you like what he is doing when he does (X) that you find it masculine and that you want to see more of it. boost his ego and you might find that he gradually evolves. And please be nice; don’t make him do things that could get him in trouble that would be horrible. You see, my observation as a man is that men do what women want them to do, they sa what women wants them to say and they do it out of love for women, unfortunately though, sometimes they take shortcuts and tell women stuff that isn’t true just to please them. tell your boyfriend what to do for your pleasure and he will do it. When it comes to arguing, men are very straight forward.
Tell your boyfriend whats on your mind and what the solution would be and you might find that he happily oblige. Now that you know why you set the bar so high in certain sanarios (its instinctive) you can being to consider to tone it down little bit as you know what it is that you want and need and what you want your boyfriend to do (think about the pad and the pen) it will be a lot easier for you to let go of arguments as you know hes ego is talking and you have a more purposeful task to do. that is "how to so stop arguing with your boyfriend", let him feel like the winner over the tiny discussion while you gradually make him the type of man you want.
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
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